Thanks for requesting me to answer this but I’m not sure there is a simple or easy answer.
The best I can think of right now is for you to know you are not alone.
You are not the first. And you will not be the last.
Not alone in what?
Not the first in what?
Not the last in what?
You are not alone in struggling.
You are not the first person to struggle.
You will not be the last person to struggle.
You are not alone in being sober and wishing to remain sober for the rest of your life.
You are not the first person to stop drinking. Many have done it before.
You won’t be the last person to stop drinking. Someone has just done it this second. And another person just now.
Some will find it easier than others. Some will find it very hard.
Fatal illness or severe – untreated – mental illness aside, I don’t believe anyone is beyond saving.
But some will relapse and die prematurely.
But even more will stay sober and live a fulfilling, happier, life.
All I can really do is ask which of these people do you want to be?
And ask what YOU can do to make sure you end up the person you want to be?
(By the way, asking this question is one great thing to do to help – I hope you get some better answers) x