Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
Borderline Persecutory Object Invisible Partners and Exes
Saturday 19th July 2025
Explore how BPD dynamics can make you a 'persecutory object' and learn ways to reclaim your identity and heal.
30 minutes
Informative
Compassionate
Supportive
Healing
Eye-opening
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Understand the concept of a persecutory object in BPD relationships.
- Recognise the role of splitting as a defence mechanism.
- Learn how projection affects partners of those with BPD.
- Focus on reclaiming your identity and healing.
- Seek therapeutic support to break free from destructive patterns.
"You're not the monster they see; you're caught in someone else's storm."
In this eye-opening episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups', A.J. Mahari tackles the complex dynamics of being perceived as a 'persecutory object' by someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Mahari, with her extensive experience as a trauma recovery coach, delves into the intricate psychological mechanisms that lead to such perceptions. Have you ever felt like you're constantly walking on eggshells, only to be idealised one moment and devalued the next? You're not alone.
The episode sheds light on the psychoanalytic concept of the persecutory object within Object Relations Theory, explaining how individuals with BPD project their internal conflicts onto their partners or exes. This isn't about you being 'bad' or 'wrong'; rather, it's about the unresolved trauma and unmet needs of the person with BPD. Mahari passionately explains how splitting, a defence mechanism, causes these intense shifts in perception.
Listeners will find solace in Mahari's empathetic approach as she discusses the importance of recognising these patterns and protecting one's mental health. She emphasises that while you can't change their perception, you can reclaim your identity and heal from the emotional chaos. If you're struggling with the emotional aftermath of a relationship with someone who has BPD, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice.
Mahari's compassionate guidance encourages you to prioritise your own well-being and seek support to navigate this challenging journey. Don't let the storm of someone else's pain consume you; it's time to focus on your own healing.