Cynthia Bailey-Rug
Cynthia Bailey-Rug
Deciding Whether Or Not To Go No Contact
Deciding Whether Or Not To Go No Contact
Deciding Whether Or Not To Go No Contact
Saturday 20th June 2020
Considering going no contact with a narcissist? Cynthia Bailey-Rug offers advice on making this tough decision and setting healthy boundaries.
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Get the buttons here!Deciding to Cut Ties with a Narcissist: Cynthia Bailey-Rug's Guidance
Going no contact and later resuming that relationship with an abuser never ends well for a victim.
Ending a relationship, especially with a family member, is never easy. But what if that person is a narcissist? In this episode, Cynthia Bailey-Rug dives into the tough decision of going no contact with a narcissist and offers thoughtful advice on how to navigate this challenging process. She begins by acknowledging that while going no contact can be the best option for victims of narcissistic abuse, it's far from an easy choice.
Often, it comes after years of trying to salvage the relationship and questioning whether there's any other solution. Cynthia recommends starting with prayer, asking for clarity and strength to handle the situation wisely. She stresses the importance of assessing your relationship: Is it genuinely toxic, or are you dealing with a personality clash? The difference is crucial. Toxic relationships leave you doubting your sanity and feeling bad about yourself, whereas personality clashes, though frustrating, don't have such damaging effects.
Another key point Cynthia discusses is whether you're the only one putting in the effort to make the relationship work. Healthy relationships require mutual effort, responsibility, and willingness to change. If you're the only one trying, it's a red flag. Cynthia also emphasizes the significance of boundaries. Healthy individuals respect boundaries, while unhealthy ones react negatively, displaying anger or passive-aggressiveness. Before deciding to go no contact, consider if you can stick to it no matter what.
Resuming contact with an abuser often leads to worse behavior from them, as they see your boundaries as weak. Cynthia highlights the importance of knowing you've done your best in the relationship. This peace of mind helps counteract the abuser's tactics of making you feel like you didn't try hard enough. Finally, trust your instincts. Cynthia believes our instincts are God's still small voice guiding us.
Trusting what you feel can help you determine if going no contact is the right move for you. This episode is packed with valuable insights for anyone considering cutting ties with a narcissist, helping you make an informed and confident decision.