Healing Families of Addicts: A Path to Recovery
Episode Overview
Secondary trauma impacts families of addicts. Family healing boosts long-term sobriety. Enmeshment and enabling behaviors explained. Therapy aids in difficult conversations. Coaching offers support for family recovery.
The more the family heals as a unit, the more likely that person is to stay sober in the long run.
In this enlightening podcast episode, Dr. Mike Barnes, Chief Clinical Officer at the Foundry Treatment Center in Steamboat Springs, dives deep into the concept of secondary trauma experienced by families living with an addict. He explains how witnessing the struggles of a loved one can be equally traumatizing for family members as the trauma experienced by the individual battling addiction. Joined by host Jerry in the third part of their Supra Conference Series, Dr.
Barnes discusses the complex dynamics within families affected by addiction. He highlights how family enmeshment, enabling behaviors, and overinvolvement can keep families trapped in a cycle of trauma and hinder the healing process. Dr. Barnes underscores the importance of family healing, noting that research indicates a family that heals together increases the chances of sustained sobriety for the addict.
A significant portion of the episode is dedicated to understanding the developmental trauma that arises when an individual's needs consistently overshadow those of their family members. This imbalance often leads to enabling and enmeshment, rooted in fear and uncertainty. Dr. Barnes shares insights from his mentor, Dr. Charles Figley, who wrote the first book on families and trauma, emphasizing the need for difficult conversations to address these issues.
The podcast also touches on practical solutions, including therapy and coaching, to help families navigate the challenges of living with a recovering addict. Jerry, a recovery coach, discusses the importance of having a support system and setting boundaries, as well as the role of coaching in helping family members deal with anxiety and fear during the recovery process. Throughout the episode, listeners are encouraged to explore their own truths and understand the circumstances that led their families down this path.
By leveraging therapy and coaching, families can move forward, achieving personal growth and reaching their goals while supporting their loved ones in recovery.