Navigating the Cyber Dating World aka Dating Apps with Dating/Relationship Expert/Coach Tore CastagnierNavigating the Cyber Dating World aka Dating Apps with Dating/Relationship Expert/Coach Tore Castagnier
M.A.Y.A: My Ambition Your Ambition
Ready to crack the code on dating apps? This week, we’re diving deep into the digital dating scene to help you swipe smarter and find genuine connections. We are thrilled to welcome back Dating/Relationship Expert and CoachTore Castagnier aka...
1:28:02•14 Apr 2026
Cracking the Code of Dating Apps with Coach Love Isn’t Enough
Episode Overview
- Treat your dating app bio like a filter by clearly stating who you are, what you want and what you will not accept.
- Avoid vague answers like "seeing where it goes"; they usually signal a lack of clear intentions or emotional readiness.
- Watch for red flags such as early money requests, instant sexual talk, love bombing or overusing religion to avoid responsibility.
- Use more than one dating app at first, then invest in the one that actually brings quality matches instead of relying on just one platform.
- Think of dating like job hunting: your profile is the CV, app chats are the screening and the real conversation happens on the date, not in endless texts.
“When you are looking to date, right, you should not be looking for help. No one should be looking for help when they're dating. They should be able to have the resources to help themselves.”
Curious about how others handle the chaos of dating apps without losing their minds? This episode of M.A.Y.A: My Ambition Your Ambition zooms in on the messy, funny and sometimes painful reality of cyber dating, with host Maya Akai calling in dating and relationship expert Coach Tore Castagnier (aka Coach Love Isn’t Enough) to break it all down.
Maya draws on her experience as a therapist to explain why dating apps show up in the therapy room so often: ghosting, endless swiping, mixed signals and the creeping belief that "maybe I'm just meant to be alone." Tore jumps straight into practical strategy, starting with profile basics.
He insists that every bio should answer three clear questions: who you are, what you’re looking for and what you absolutely don’t want – and that anything vague like “seeing where it goes” is a red flag. You’ll hear concrete examples from real dating app conversations, with Maya and Tore dissecting replies like "I just pray" for mental health, "unconditional love" as a licence to misbehave and "I'm not looking for anything" as code for casual sex.
They talk scams, sob stories and the “saviour complex”, warning that, as Tore puts it, "When you are looking to date, right, you should not be looking for help... They should be able to have the resources to help themselves." The pair also compare dating to job hunting: your profile is the CV, app messages are the screening call and the first date is the interview.
From there, they stress emotional readiness, clear goals and safety – including why first dates shouldn’t start at your front door. If you’re sober, healing, or simply trying to date in a way that protects your peace and mental health, this conversation might be the nudge you need to rewrite your dating app game plan. Are you dating with real purpose, or just hoping the right swipe magically fixes everything?
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