Why Self-Love Feels Impossible After Narcissistic Abuse
Episode Overview
Self-love requires more than just solo acts; it needs relational healing. Survivors often lack a foundational sense of self due to past abuse. Co-regulation with a safe person helps recalibrate the nervous system. A trauma therapist or supportive community can aid in rebuilding self-worth. Healing is a collective effort that involves genuine connections.
Self-love isn't just burning candles and incense sticks. It's a lot more than that.
Ever wondered why the concept of self-love feels so elusive, especially after enduring narcissistic abuse? In this episode, Danish Bashir, a Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Professional, unpacks why traditional notions of self-love can be flawed for survivors. He argues that for many who have faced narcissistic abuse, self-love isn't just about bubble baths and positive affirmations—it's about addressing deeper wounds. Danish explains that survivors often lack a foundational sense of self, making the journey to self-love particularly challenging.
He stresses the importance of co-regulation, where a safe relationship helps recalibrate the nervous system, something many missed out on during their formative years. Through a mix of personal reflections and professional insights, Danish highlights the need for relational healing and the role of a trauma therapist or supportive community in this process. He encourages survivors to seek connections that offer genuine safety and care, helping them rebuild their sense of self-worth.
By the end of the episode, you'll understand why healing is a collective effort and why self-love requires more than just solo acts of kindness. Tune in to learn how to build a supportive network that aids in your recovery journey.