Graham Landi & Martin Pankhurst
Graham Landi & Martin Pankhurst
Shunishment
Shunishment
Shunishment
Thursday 25th September 2025
Explore 'shunishment' in relationships with Graham Landi and Martin Pankhurst on Sideways, blending humour and insight into addiction recovery.
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Sobriety Toolkit
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Episode Overview
- Shunishment involves using presence as a reward and absence as punishment.
- Recognise unclear rules and shifting boundaries as signs of shunishment.
- Self-awareness is key to avoiding manipulative behaviours.
- Set clear boundaries to prevent being manipulated.
- Take responsibility for your own actions in relationships.
Shunishment is a trend where someone uses their presence as a reward and absence as a punishment.
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? In this episode of Sideways, Graham Landi and Martin Pankhurst explore the intriguing concept of 'shunishment'—a blend of shunning and punishment used as a form of manipulation and control in relationships. The duo humorously discusses the origins of the term, with Martin initially dismissing it as just another modern jargon, only to have a change of heart after some reflection.
They delve into how shunishment can manifest in relationships, particularly where addiction is involved, and the complex dynamics it creates. Listeners are treated to a mix of light-hearted banter and serious insights as Graham and Martin share personal anecdotes, including tales of mischievous monkeys indulging in fermented fruit. The episode also touches on the importance of setting boundaries and recognising when you're being manipulated or manipulating others.
The conversation takes a thoughtful turn as they discuss the signs of shunishment, such as unclear rules and shifting boundaries, drawing parallels with gaslighting and narcissism. They highlight the importance of self-awareness and taking responsibility for one's actions rather than trying to control others. With their usual blend of humour and sincerity, Graham and Martin encourage listeners to reflect on their relationships and consider whether shunishment might be at play.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone interested in understanding the nuances of relationship dynamics, especially in the context of addiction recovery. Could your relationships benefit from clearer boundaries?