So then the sheet asks me, how have I been self-reliant? or experience that reflection. So then the sheet asks me, how have I been self-seeking? And then these are some of the behaviors I'd have exemplified. I'll withdraw, I'll give the silent treatment, I'll gossip and grumble. Um, just increasing negativity, failing to over, failing to look at her gifts and accept her as she is. I have an all or nothing mindset. And some it is because I still believe that she's not authentic. My selfish attitude. I need to protect myself at all costs. I don't want to be like you, so I will ignore and avoid you. There's no in or out in my attitude. I'm either all in or all out. For the longest time, I was in the illusion that I was setting a healthy boundary for myself to avoid controlling, fixing, and obsessing. To decrease frustration and anger and negativity and irritability. I was afraid of being crushed and rejected. I was afraid of being disrespected, useless, and exposed to others as a liar and a fake. I was afraid to be unworthy of community myself. Harm. Do I see any harm I have caused? I've caused tension. I've caused conflict with other members in the group. I've planted doubt. I've failed to love unconditionally, and through gossiping, I've been open to negativity and lies without defense.