Lee Davy
Lee Davy
The Most Dangerous Lie: “I’ve Got This Under Control”
The Most Dangerous Lie: “I’ve Got This Under Control”
The Most Dangerous Lie: “I’ve Got This Under Control”
Thursday 29th January 2026
Explore why 'I've got this under control' is more than confidence—it's a defensive lie. Learn how alcohol stabilises threatened narratives.
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Episode Overview
- 'I've got this under control' is often a defensive mechanism.
- Control can feel like safety but may block adaptive truths.
- Alcohol stabilises narratives, avoiding uncomfortable questions.
- Reflect on your body's reactions without pressure to fix them.
- Explore safety patterns in a non-judgmental stabilisation space.
"Control often feels like safety until it stops letting the truth breathe."
Ever wondered what makes the phrase 'I've got this under control' so convincing yet so dangerous? In this eye-opening episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, host Lee Davy dives into the psychological intricacies behind this seemingly reassuring statement. The episode explores how this phrase is not a mark of confidence but a defensive mechanism of the nervous system.
Lee breaks down why leaders often confuse control with safety and what they're actually trying to protect—hint: it's not just their plans, but the very story that gives their life coherence. Lee also examines the role of alcohol as a stabiliser when the story we've built around our lives feels threatened. This isn't about celebrating or escaping; it's about holding onto a narrative long enough to avoid uncomfortable truths.
The episode encourages listeners to pause and notice their body's reactions, offering a moment of reflection without the pressure to fix or analyse. For those who resonate with this message, Lee introduces the concept of a 'stabilisation space' where one can explore these safety patterns more deeply without judgment or rush. It's an invitation to look at oneself honestly and understand that sometimes control feels like safety until it stops letting the truth breathe.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone struggling with alcohol or simply questioning the narratives they've built around their lives. It offers a compassionate look at how our need for control can sometimes blind us to adaptive truths. So, are you ready to confront your own 'I've got this under control' moments?