Lee Davy
Lee Davy
Trying to Fix Your Marriage While Drinking? Talk to Your Partner Like They’re Eight
Trying to Fix Your Marriage While Drinking? Talk to Your Partner Like They’re Eight
Trying to Fix Your Marriage While Drinking? Talk to Your Partner Like They’re Eight
Tuesday 1st July 2025
Explore how speaking to loved ones like they're children can heal relationships and boost sobriety.
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Sobriety Toolkit
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Episode Overview
- Alcohol can hinder effective communication in relationships.
- Speak to partners like they are children during conflicts for better understanding.
- Recognise when inner child parts are activated in yourself and others.
- Living a self-led life involves compassion and emotional regulation.
- Shifting from PARTS to SELF can transform relationships.
"You can't fix your relationship with alcohol in the mix."
In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy takes listeners on a journey through the tangled web of relationships and alcohol. Lee, who proudly declares he is not an alcoholic, shares his hard-earned wisdom on how alcohol can cloud judgement and communication, especially when it comes to fixing relationships. He reflects on his own experiences, where barking at his partner and slamming doors were all too common while he was drinking.
The key message here is simple yet powerful: you can't fix your marriage with alcohol in the mix. Lee introduces the concept of talking to your partner as if they were eight years old, not to condescend but to lead with calmness and compassion. This approach is rooted in self-energy, where you slow down and stop trying to win arguments. Lee emphasises the importance of understanding that when triggered, people often revert to their inner child.
This realisation can transform how we communicate with loved ones, fostering more connected and harmonious relationships. Drawing from Internal Family Systems work, Lee discusses how speaking to our inner parts from a place of self can soften and build trust, allowing us to let go of the harshness we often direct at ourselves and others. He shares anecdotes about his wife Liza's ability to hold space for their daughter Zia during emotional moments, highlighting the value of presence and understanding.
The episode encourages listeners to pause during conflicts and recognise the activated parts in themselves and others. By meeting these moments with compassion and care, you can change the energy in the room and ultimately live a self-led life free from alcohol. If you're curious about how shifting from PARTS to SELF can impact your relationships and sobriety journey, this episode is a must-listen. It offers insights that could change how you interact with those closest to you.
So, what would happen if you started talking to your loved ones like they were kids when tensions rise? Maybe it's time to find out.