Tim M's Workshop: Unmasking Subconscious Games with Sponsors
When you can call out one of these games, the game is over, because it kind of needs to be under the cover of darkness to operate.
Ever felt like your recovery journey is hitting invisible roadblocks? Tim M, a seasoned workshop leader, dives into the hidden dynamics between sponsors and sponsees in this enlightening episode of Sobercast. Drawing from over a decade of experience, Tim sheds light on the subtle games that can undermine progress in AA recovery. He kicks off by clarifying the unique role of a sponsor, emphasizing that they are guides through the steps, not therapists or life coaches.
Sponsors are accountable to their higher power and themselves, ensuring they remain focused on their primary role. Tim then delves into the heart of the matter: the subconscious games that can derail recovery. He identifies the 'friendship game', where overly friendly relationships blur the lines of sponsorship, making it hard to challenge and guide effectively. Another common pitfall is the 'cat game', where sponsees forget key discussions and repeat issues without progress. Tim's advice?
Keep a notebook to track solutions and maintain focus. The 'pigeon chess game' is another trap, where sponsees appear busy but avoid real progress by sidestepping assigned tasks. Tim urges sponsors to call out these games, fostering an environment of honesty and accountability. Throughout the workshop, Tim shares personal stories and practical tips, making his insights relatable and actionable. Listeners will find this episode both engaging and transformative, offering a fresh perspective on the sponsor-sponsee relationship.
Whether you're a sponsor, a sponsee, or someone supporting a loved one in recovery, Tim's wisdom provides valuable tools to navigate these subconscious challenges and stay on track in your sobriety journey.