Untangling Codependency: A Relationship Masterclass
Episode Overview
Codependency can affect personal and professional relationships. Childhood trauma often leads to codependent behaviours. Codependent individuals struggle with setting boundaries. Fear of abandonment drives codependent actions. Recognising codependency is crucial for recovery.
"Codependency is not always manifested just in romantic relationships; it can occur between parents and adult children or in caregiving professions."
In the Counselor Toolbox Podcast with DocSnipes, Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes takes a deep dive into the tangled web of codependency in relationships. This episode unpacks the difference between codependent and healthy relationships, with a focus on how these dynamics manifest not only in personal lives but also in caregiving professions. Dr. Snipes offers a masterclass on understanding codependency, touching on its origins, symptoms, and the significant impact it can have on one's life.
Codependency often gets mistaken for caretaking, but Dr. Snipes clarifies that while caretakers maintain their own boundaries and self-worth, codependent individuals are driven by an overwhelming fear of abandonment. They feel incomplete without being needed by others, often sacrificing their own needs and desires to rescue or control their 'dysfunctional other'. This can lead to an unhealthy obsession that negatively affects their social life, work obligations, and even their mental health. Dr.
Snipes highlights how childhood trauma plays a pivotal role in developing codependent behaviours. Many people with codependency grew up in chaotic environments where caregivers were either mentally ill, addicted, or intentionally neglectful. These experiences can trigger inner child trauma, leading to a constant need to control others as a way to feel safe. The episode further explores how codependency is similar to addiction, providing a temporary escape from feelings of isolation and rejection. Dr.
Snipes discusses how those affected often have an unstable sense of self and struggle with emotional dysregulation. With engaging anecdotes and relatable examples, Dr. Snipes offers insights that are both informative and compassionate. If you're curious about how codependency might be affecting your relationships or work life, this episode provides valuable perspectives and advice that might just help you see things in a new light.