Tackling Abandonment Anxiety: CBT Tips with Dr. Snipes
Episode Overview
Recognise signs of abandonment anxiety like control issues and need for praise. Understand how insecure attachments impact relationships. Learn cognitive behavioural therapy techniques for self-validation. Discover ways to nurture a secure attachment with yourself. Find encouragement to step outside your comfort zone.
Being alone with their own thoughts is terrifying.
Abandonment anxiety can be a real pickle, affecting relationships and self-esteem in ways that might surprise you. In this episode of the Counselor Toolbox Podcast, Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes tackles the thorny issue of abandonment anxiety with cognitive behavioural therapy tips that aim to soothe those gnawing feelings of insecurity. Ever felt the need to control your partner or be controlled? You might just be grappling with abandonment anxiety. Dr.
Snipes explains how growing up in chaotic households can lead to this anxious need for control, while others might find themselves needing constant praise to feel worthy. It's not about being narcissistic, but rather a deep-seated fear that needs addressing. The episode digs into how insecure attachments can make us hyper-vigilant, constantly scanning for signs that someone might leave us high and dry.
This can lead to unhealthy relationships where being with someone - even if it's not ideal - feels better than being alone. Dr. Snipes also shares how traumatic memories can linger in our bodies, causing feelings of insecurity without any apparent reason. But fear not, there are ways to cope! Developing secure attachments with yourself is key. This means checking in regularly with your thoughts and feelings, and validating them rather than brushing them aside.
It's about nurturing your relationship with yourself, knowing your values, and encouraging yourself to step outside your comfort zone. Dr. Snipes offers practical tips for creating a safe home base within yourself - where you can feel supported and encouraged to try new things without fear of failure. So, if you've ever wondered why you feel anxious in relationships or why you struggle with self-worth, this episode is a treasure trove of insights and advice.
Why not give it a listen and see if it resonates with you?