Dr. Jacques de Broekert
Dr. Jacques de Broekert
A Very Particular Part Of Step 9
A Very Particular Part Of Step 9
A Very Particular Part Of Step 9
Friday 16th May 2025
Dr. Jacques explores Step 9's complexities in recovery, balancing amends with self-protection.
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Dr. Jacques de Broekert
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Episode Overview
- Step 9 involves making amends without causing harm.
- Sometimes making amends can be emotionally injurious.
- Discuss dilemmas with trusted counsellors or therapists.
- Forgiveness requires courage and consideration.
- Protecting oneself is vital during recovery.
Making amends is like offering someone the chance to return an unwanted gift of anger.
Doc Jacques: Your Addiction Lifeguard dives into a sensitive aspect of Step 9 from the 12-step process, focusing on making amends without causing further harm. Dr. Jacques de Broekert, a seasoned psychologist and addiction specialist, shares his nuanced take on the complexities of this step, especially when it involves confronting past abusers. With a mix of clinical expertise and personal anecdotes, he unpacks the delicate balance between making amends and protecting oneself from emotional injury.
Step 9 traditionally involves making direct amends to those harmed, but as Dr. Jacques explains, sometimes this act can be detrimental to the person in recovery, particularly if past interactions were abusive. Through real-life stories, Dr. Jacques illustrates how making amends can be a double-edged sword. He recounts the tale of a client who faced the daunting task of apologising to an abusive parent.
Her journey highlights the struggle of reconciling the need for closure with the risk of reopening old wounds. This episode stresses the importance of discussing such dilemmas with trusted counsellors or therapists to ensure that decisions are made thoughtfully. Dr. Jacques urges those in recovery to be courageous yet cautious, advocating for self-protection while acknowledging the importance of forgiveness. His approach is both compassionate and pragmatic, offering listeners a roadmap to navigate these murky waters with clarity and care.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone grappling with Step 9's challenges. It provides not just understanding but also support for those seeking a balanced path in their recovery journey. So why not tune in and see how this unique perspective might help you or someone you care about?