The Importance of Patience as a Parent of an Addicted Loved One
Just be patient and keep praying and keep in control of what you can do for you and your self-care. Stay healthy and surround yourself with others who care, with others who understand and bring hope and encourage you on this journey.
Michelle Weidenbenner, the facilitator for parents of addicted loved ones, shares her experience of coping with her son's addiction and the importance of patience in waiting for the right moment for your loved one to seek help.
As a mother of a recovering addict, Michelle understands the struggles that come with addiction chaos. She has spent years trying to cope with this devastating disease, and she has found that the hardest part of it all is being patient. As parents, we have to wait until our loved ones are in so much pain or are open to change before they seek help. Michelle shares her experience of waiting for her son to seek help and how she coped with the frustration of waiting.
Michelle's son and daughter-in-law were finally at a place where they were going to apply for a scholarship for a rehab in Florida called Just Believe. Michelle was hopeful that her son and daughter-in-law were finally looking for help on their own. However, after days went by, nothing was done. Michelle's son and daughter-in-law did not want to be separated, and Michelle could not make the decision for them. This was a reminder that it's not about us, it's about our loved ones' journey.
Michelle emphasizes the importance of mental health in addiction. Addiction is often one problem, but there may be an underlying mental disorder or trauma that needs to be addressed. Michelle's son had anxiety, which was underlying a lot of his problems. Dual diagnoses therapy can help address both addiction and underlying mental health issues.
Letting go of control is also a struggle for parents of addicted loved ones. We want to control the situation and force our loved ones to seek help, but it's not about us. It's about their journey, and we can't make the decision for them. Michelle learned to let go and let God. She also emphasizes the necessity of self-care for parents of addicted loved ones. We need to take care of ourselves and surround ourselves with others who care and understand our struggles.
Michelle's experience of coping with her son's addiction and the importance of patience in waiting for the right moment for your loved one to seek help is a reminder that addiction is a disease that affects not just the addict but also their loved ones. It's not easy, but we need to stay hopeful, encouraging, and supportive. We need to take care of ourselves and surround ourselves with others who bring hope and encourage us on this journey. Listen to the full episode of Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up here on alcoholfree.com.