Counsellor A.J. Mahari

Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups

A.J. Mahari

  • Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents

Borderline Induced Conversations - When Talking Turns Into Trauma for Codependents

Sunday 12th October 2025

Explore how induced conversations in BPD relationships turn emotional, chaotic, and traumatic, and learn how to step out of these patterns.
20 minutes
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Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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When Conversations Become Emotional Collisions

Episode Overview

  • Induced conversations mimic communication but are emotional collisions.
  • Recognise signs of being pulled into someone else's emotional storm.
  • Set emotional boundaries to maintain personal peace.
  • Reclaim your nervous system by pausing and grounding yourself.
  • Healing requires new patterns and emotional sovereignty.
"Love that destroys your regulation is not love, it's trauma reenactment."
What happens when a conversation turns into an emotional rollercoaster? In this eye-opening episode, A.J. Mahari sheds light on the concept of 'induced conversations' in relationships involving Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and codependency. Mahari explains how these interactions, which seem like communication, are actually emotional collisions between two nervous systems.
She breaks down the physiological responses of both parties, revealing how the borderline's fear of abandonment triggers a fight-flight response, while the codependent's urge to fix leads to a freeze-appease reaction. Listeners will gain a better understanding of why they find themselves stuck in these unending emotional loops and how to step out of them. Mahari offers practical advice on reclaiming one's nervous system, setting boundaries, and recognising when they're being pulled into someone else's emotional storm.
The episode is a must-listen for anyone caught in the cycle of trauma-bonded talks that never resolve anything. It’s packed with insights on breaking free from these patterns and finding genuine connection without chaos. Mahari's compassionate approach offers hope and guidance for those struggling with these complex relationship dynamics. Her expertise provides a roadmap for healing, encouraging listeners to reclaim their peace and establish healthier ways of interacting.
Are you ready to transform your conversations into places of truth rather than trauma?
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