Unmasking Control: Overt and Covert Tactics in Everyday Life
Covert controlling is in fact the universal social lubricant. It's how socialized human beings relate to each other: universal, inevitable, inescapable, like a psychological sea in which every one of us swims.
Ever wondered why you feel the need to micromanage or why you sometimes bend the truth to keep the peace? In this episode of 'MonkeyTraps', Steve Hauptman, a seasoned Licensed Clinical Social Worker, reads from Chapter 7 of his book, diving into the fascinating world of overt and covert control. He breaks down how these two forms of control sneak into our daily lives, often without us even noticing.
Overt control is pretty straightforward – it's the obvious, visible ways we try to steer situations. Covert control, on the other hand, is the hidden, sneaky stuff. It's the people-pleasing, the little white lies, and the suppressed feelings we use to navigate social interactions. Hauptman explains that while covert control might seem harmless or even necessary, it can actually lead to anxiety, depression, and strained relationships. By recognizing these behaviors in ourselves, we can start to address and change them.
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to understand their own controlling tendencies and find healthier ways to interact with the world around them.