Love and Sobriety: Dr. Adam Downs on Relationships in Early Recovery
It takes one healthy me and another healthy me, and when they can come together, then they can have a healthy relationship.
When you're fresh on the path to sobriety, the idea of starting a romantic relationship can feel like walking a tightrope. In this episode of the 'Bradford Alumni Podcast', Dr. Adam Downs dives into the tricky waters of love and recovery. He breaks down the widely held belief that you should wait a year before dating, suggesting that while it might be good advice for some, it's not a one-size-fits-all rule. Instead, Dr.
Downs champions the idea of focusing on self-care and self-awareness first. He says, 'It takes one healthy me and another healthy me, and when they come together, then they can have a healthy relationship'. This episode isn't just about avoiding distractions; it's about understanding that early recovery is a time for personal growth. Dr. Downs emphasizes that developing healthy habits and learning to care for yourself should be top priorities.
Romantic relationships can be a huge distraction if they take precedence over your recovery journey. Dr. Downs talks about finding a balance, stressing that relationships require effort and attention. He notes that in early recovery, you might not have enough of yourself to offer a partner fully. Instead, he suggests using this time to work on self-discovery and becoming whole. Only then can you attract a partner who is also whole and ready for a healthy relationship.
So if you're navigating the choppy waters of early recovery and wondering how love fits into the picture, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in to hear Dr. Adam Downs share his thoughts on creating lasting, healthy relationships while staying true to your recovery journey.