Heather Ross
Heather Ross
EP122 Why Confrontation Backfires And What to Do Instead
EP122 Why Confrontation Backfires And What to Do Instead
EP122 Why Confrontation Backfires And What to Do Instead
Monday 11th August 2025
Heather Ross reveals why confrontation often backfires in addiction recovery and shares a balanced approach for parents.
23 minutes
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Family Recovery from Addiction
Sobriety Toolkit
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
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Episode Overview
- Confrontation often increases resistance rather than motivating change.
- Adopt a balanced approach combining compassion and connection.
- Positive communication can reinforce non-substance behaviours.
- Setting boundaries from love can protect relationships.
- Create an environment where your child feels safe to be vulnerable.
Every interaction either builds motivation or increases resistance.
Heather Ross tackles the thorny issue of confrontation in parenting a child with addiction. She challenges the age-old advice of holding them accountable and offers a fresh perspective that turns the traditional approach on its head. Rather than confronting your child at every turn, Heather suggests a more strategic, balanced approach that fosters motivation and trust.
You might be thinking, 'But if I don't confront them, am I enabling their behaviour?' Heather addresses this common concern by introducing a two-step solution that involves shifting your perspective and adopting positive communication strategies. Heather's own journey through her daughter's addiction informs her advice. She candidly shares how constant confrontation left her exhausted and distant from her daughter. Instead, she found that creating a supportive environment through compassion and connection led to better outcomes.
Imagine being the parent your child feels safe enough to approach when they need help—Heather believes this is possible with the right tools. The episode highlights how every interaction with your child can either build motivation or increase resistance. Heather explains the science behind why confrontation often backfires, leaving both parent and child frustrated. By balancing hard conversations with genuine connection and respect, you can create an atmosphere where your child feels motivated to change.
Heather offers practical advice on using positive communication, setting loving boundaries, and recognising small wins to reinforce non-substance behaviours. Her approach is grounded in scientific research and personal experience, making it relatable and actionable. So if you're ready to stop spinning your wheels and want to create a more rewarding relationship with your child, this episode is a must-listen. It’s about becoming a family recovery ninja—strategically supporting your child without losing yourself in the process.