Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization
Sunday 29th June 2025
A.J. Mahari explores codependency in BPD relationships, urging self-care over excusing harmful behaviours. Discover healing strategies today.
22 minutes
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
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Episode Overview
- Understanding codependent externalisation in BPD relationships.
- Importance of breaking trauma bonds through therapy.
- Focus on self-care rather than excusing harmful behaviours.
- Reflect on personal experiences without generalising all BPD individuals.
- Learn to meet emotional needs internally.
"Excusing BPD behavior is what so many people with Codependency do, and it's time to take personal responsibility."
A.J. Mahari, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, tackles the complex issue of codependency in relationships involving individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in this episode titled 'Excusing BPD Behavior is Codependent Externalization'. With over 30 years of experience, Mahari offers a compassionate yet firm approach to understanding the dynamics at play when excusing harmful behaviours becomes a habit for those with codependency.
Mahari emphasises the importance of breaking free from trauma bonds and urges listeners to focus on self-care rather than trying to fix or excuse the actions of those with BPD. She discusses how codependent externalisation can lead individuals to seek validation from partners who cannot meet their needs, often resulting in a cycle of abuse and misunderstanding.
Through therapy and inner child healing, Mahari suggests that individuals can learn to meet their own needs internally and stop externalising their emotions onto others. With a touch of humour and a lot of empathy, Mahari addresses common misconceptions about BPD behaviours and encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences without generalising all individuals with BPD. Her advice is grounded in real-world experiences, making it relatable and accessible for anyone struggling with these challenging relationships.
Mahari’s insights offer hope for those seeking recovery from toxic relationships, making this episode a valuable resource for anyone navigating the emotional complexities of codependency. If you’re ready to focus on yourself and take steps towards healing, this episode might just be the catalyst you need.