Breaking the Chains: Overcoming Narcissistic Addiction
So if we know that those of us that end up in relationships with narcissists are coming from a place of lack of self-love, not feeling worthy or good enough or lovable, and we think about ourselves, then as the adult, cognitively, you might be saying to yourself: I know I am good enough, but when you get triggered, you feel not good enough, and that's that wounded younger part.
Imagine being trapped in a cycle where you're constantly trying to prove your worth to someone who never acknowledges it. In this episode of 'The Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery Podcast', Caroline Strawson dives into the harrowing experience of being addicted to a narcissist. She sheds light on how our brains and bodies get hooked on the familiar feeling of not being good enough, even when it's painful.
Caroline unpacks the psychological mechanisms at play, explaining how addiction serves as a shield against the deep-seated pain of our wounded younger selves. You'll learn about the crucial difference between intellectually knowing you're good enough and actually feeling it. Caroline highlights why our brains cling to what's familiar, mistaking it for safety, and how this perpetuates the toxic cycle.
She also stresses the importance of setting boundaries, advocating for no contact or extremely modified contact with the narcissist in your life. This episode isn't just about understanding the problem; it's about finding solutions. Caroline introduces a range of therapeutic tools like Internal Family Systems, Brainspotting, and Somatic Experiencing to help you move from post-traumatic stress to post-traumatic growth. Her approach combines science with empathy, offering a holistic path to recovery.
If you're struggling with feelings of inadequacy and find yourself stuck in a harmful relationship, this episode provides both insight and actionable steps to start breaking free. Caroline's compassionate guidance makes it clear: healing is possible, and you don't have to do it alone.