Andrea
Andrea
Still Hoping Your Parents Will Change? Perfectionism, Codependency & Enmeshment w/ Alana Carvalho
Still Hoping Your Parents Will Change? Perfectionism, Codependency & Enmeshment w/ Alana Carvalho
Still Hoping Your Parents Will Change? Perfectionism, Codependency & Enmeshment w/ Alana Carvalho
Wednesday 20th August 2025
Explore perfectionism and codependency in dysfunctional families with Alana Carvalho. Learn how to navigate enmeshment and foster personal growth.
Explicit
64 minutes
challenging
informative
hopeful
reflective
supportive
About this podcast
Author:
Andrea
Overview:
Categories:
Healing Relationships
Healing from Sexual Trauma
Recovery from Trauma
Sobriety Toolkit
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Links:
Visit site
Episodes:
404 (View all)
Do you want to link to this podcast?
Get the buttons here!Breaking Free: Perfectionism & Codependency
Episode Overview
- Understanding the roots of perfectionism and its impact.
- Exploring codependency and enmeshment in family dynamics.
- The cost of waiting for parental change.
- Strategies for healing and personal growth.
- Building healthier relationships and boundaries.
"Stop asking why they keep doing it and start asking why you keep allowing it."
In this insightful episode, Andrea welcomes Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, to explore the intricate dynamics of perfectionism, codependency, and enmeshment in dysfunctional families. Alana, who has firsthand experience of growing up in such an environment, sheds light on the pain many adult children endure while waiting for their parents to change.
The discussion dives into the concept of perfectionism, a trait often rooted in the desire to be seen as enough, which can lead to a lifelong struggle for many. Alana explains how perfectionism often intertwines with codependency, where individuals find themselves overly reliant on others for validation and support, losing sight of their own identity in the process.
Enmeshment, another critical topic, is addressed as a common dynamic within dysfunctional families, where boundaries become blurred, leading to an unhealthy level of emotional dependence between family members. Alana emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and the necessity of establishing personal boundaries to foster healthier relationships. Throughout the conversation, Andrea and Alana discuss the painful hope many hold onto in anticipation that their parents will eventually change and meet their emotional needs.
This hope can keep individuals trapped in a cycle of frustration and disappointment. Alana offers practical advice on how to break free from these patterns, highlighting the significance of self-awareness, acceptance, and resilience. She encourages listeners to focus on their own healing journey, which involves confronting suppressed emotions and building a support system that validates their experiences.
This episode serves as a valuable resource for anyone struggling with the repercussions of growing up in a dysfunctional family, providing insights and strategies to navigate the complexities of personal growth and emotional healing.