Caroline Strawson
Caroline Strawson
The Narcissist, The “Let Them” Theory, And Internal Family Systems
The Narcissist, The “Let Them” Theory, And Internal Family Systems
The Narcissist, The “Let Them” Theory, And Internal Family Systems
Tuesday 1st July 2025
Caroline Strawson questions the 'Let Them' theory's impact on trauma survivors, exploring its nuances through a compassionate lens.
25 minutes
Compassionate
Informative
Supportive
Encouraging
Honest
About this podcast
Author:
Caroline Strawson
Overview:
Categories:
Recovery from Trauma
Healing from Sexual Trauma
Healing Relationships
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Recovery Reimagined
Links:
Visit site
Episodes:
261 (View all)
Do you want to link to this podcast?
Get the buttons here!Unpacking the 'Let Them' Theory: Is It Truly Supportive?
Episode Overview
- The 'Let Them' theory may trigger shame and abandonment wounds in trauma survivors.
- Internal Family Systems offers a framework for understanding emotional responses.
- Self-awareness and compassion are crucial in healing from relational trauma.
- Recognising protector parts can help manage core emotional wounds.
- Empowering oneself through self-rescue is vital for personal growth.
"No one's coming to rescue you. You've got to rescue yourself."
Caroline Strawson, host of The Narcissistic Abuse & Trauma Recovery Podcast, tackles the viral 'Let Them' theory by Mel Robbins, questioning its impact on survivors of narcissistic and domestic abuse. Strawson explores how the seemingly liberating concept of letting others act without interference might not be as straightforward for those grappling with relational trauma. She highlights how this approach can inadvertently trigger shame or abandonment wounds, posing potential risks rather than offering solace.
Through a trauma-informed lens, Strawson dissects the nuances of the 'Let Them' theory and introduces Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a pivotal tool in understanding and managing these responses. IFS, a therapeutic model focusing on self-leadership and the integration of different parts within us, is presented as a way to navigate complex emotional landscapes. Strawson shares her personal experiences, reflecting on her journey from people-pleasing to self-awareness and self-compassion.
She discusses the importance of recognising and addressing protector parts within us—those reactions that shield us from core emotional wounds. With a blend of personal anecdotes and professional insights, this episode provides a thoughtful exploration of how theoretical concepts like 'Let Them' can be adapted to fit the unique needs of trauma survivors. Caroline's empathetic approach encourages listeners to reflect on their own healing journeys, urging them to find power in self-rescue rather than waiting for external saviours.
If you're curious about how to balance theory with lived experience, this episode offers a compelling narrative that resonates with anyone seeking growth beyond trauma.