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004. Why You Keep Screwing Yourself Over (And How to Stop) | The Johnny Lawrence Podcast
004. Why You Keep Screwing Yourself Over (And How to Stop) | The Johnny Lawrence Podcast
004. Why You Keep Screwing Yourself Over (And How to Stop) | The Johnny Lawrence Podcast
Saturday 23rd August 2025
Explore why self-sabotage is a myth and learn how to adopt healthier coping mechanisms with Johnny Lawrence.
23 minutes
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Episode Overview
- Self-sabotage is often misunderstood as a coping mechanism.
- Replace destructive habits with healthier alternatives.
- Recognise discomfort as part of personal growth.
- Practice patience and self-compassion during change.
- Understand emotional triggers to prevent self-sabotage.
"You are not a saboteur. You're just well practiced at the only known way of soothing yourself".
In this episode of The Self Development Podcast, Johnny Lawrence tackles the topic of self-sabotage with a refreshing twist. He argues that what we often label as self-sabotage is actually our attempt to soothe ourselves when faced with overwhelming emotions. Johnny delves into the concept that our brains are wired for comfort and familiarity, which can lead us back to old habits even if they're not good for us.
With a blend of humour and honesty, Johnny challenges the idea that we are self-saboteurs, encouraging listeners to view these behaviours as coping mechanisms instead. Johnny shares his personal journey, reflecting on how he used alcohol as a way to manage emotions stemming from a chaotic childhood. He emphasises the importance of replacing destructive habits with healthier ones, and offers practical advice on how to identify and adopt new coping strategies.
By recognising the discomfort in change and practising patience and self-compassion, Johnny believes anyone can overcome these hurdles. Throughout the episode, Johnny's engaging style keeps you hooked, making complex psychological concepts accessible and relatable. His anecdotes about learning to drive illustrate how our brains automate behaviours for safety and ease, often at the expense of personal growth. If you've ever felt like you're sabotaging your own progress, this episode offers a fresh perspective that might just change your mind.
By understanding the roots of these behaviours, you can start casting votes for the person you want to become. So, why not give it a listen and see if you can find some new ways to soothe yourself?