Allison K. Dagney
Allison K. Dagney
10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
10 Signs You Were The Mirror Not The Partner
Tuesday 5th August 2025
Discover signs of narcissistic abuse and learn how to heal emotional trauma with expert insights and practical advice.
57 minutes
informative
encouraging
challenging
hopeful
About this podcast
Author:
Allison K. Dagney
Overview:
Categories:
Recovery from Trauma
Healing from Sexual Trauma
Healing Relationships
Mindful Recovery
Understanding Addiction & Recovery
Links:
Visit site
Episodes:
232 (View all)
Do you want to link to this podcast?
Get the buttons here!Healing from Narcissistic Abuse: 10 Key Signs
Episode Overview
- Identifying narcissistic projection and its impact.
- Understanding emotional invalidation and self-doubt.
- Practical steps to break free from trauma patterns.
- The importance of setting boundaries for self-protection.
- How to start your healing journey and empower yourself.
You were a reflection of the other person. They were projecting onto you.
In this insightful episode of the 'Be A Better You' podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney delves into the complex dynamics of narcissistic relationships and provides a roadmap for healing. The episode is centered around the concept of being used as a 'mirror' by a narcissistic partner, rather than being seen and valued as a genuine partner.
Allison explains that in relationships characterized by narcissistic abuse, individuals often find themselves in a state of emotional confusion and self-doubt. This occurs because narcissists tend to project their insecurities onto their partners, leading to a cycle of accusations and manipulations that make the victim question their integrity and reality. This form of projection is a classic tactic used to deflect attention from the narcissist's own flaws.
The podcast highlights ten signs that indicate a person might have been used as a mirror in their relationship. Some of these signs include being accused of behaviors the narcissist is guilty of, experiencing emotional invalidation, and having personal boundaries dismissed as threats. Allison emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns to break free from the cycle of abuse. A critical aspect of healing from such trauma involves reclaiming one's sense of self-worth and setting healthy boundaries.
Allison encourages listeners to focus on their achievements and strengths, rather than succumbing to the negative narrative imposed by their abuser. Furthermore, the episode discusses the concept of cognitive dissonance, which occurs when individuals hold conflicting beliefs or attitudes, often exacerbated by the manipulative tactics of a narcissistic partner. By addressing these internal conflicts, survivors can begin to trust their perceptions and feelings again. Allison offers practical strategies for recovery, including seeking support from trauma-informed professionals and engaging in self-reflection.
She reassures listeners that healing is possible and that their journey towards self-empowerment is a testament to their resilience. Listeners are invited to explore these themes further and are encouraged to reach out for support and guidance as they navigate their personal healing journeys.