Lee Davy
Lee Davy
Afraid to Stop Drinking? You’re Not Weak—You Just Crave Certainty
Afraid to Stop Drinking? You’re Not Weak—You Just Crave Certainty
Afraid to Stop Drinking? You’re Not Weak—You Just Crave Certainty
Saturday 26th April 2025
Explore the Rigid Pattern with Lee Davy and learn how to manage your need for control without relying on alcohol.
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Episode Overview
- The Rigid Pattern forms in childhood as a way to seek love through perfection.
- Awareness of this pattern is crucial for managing its impact.
- Alcohol can become a coping mechanism for those trapped in this pattern.
- Grounding practices can help shift from panic to presence.
- Embracing vulnerability allows for growth and self-led living.
You don't drink alcohol because you're weak. You drink because a part of you is terrified of what might happen next.
Ever feel like you're running a marathon on a tightrope, trying to stay ahead and keep everything perfect? In this episode of the 1000 Days Sober Podcast, Lee Davy unpacks the 'Rigid Pattern', a personality trait that can lead to overthinking and a constant craving for control. Drawing from Stephen Kessler's work, Lee explores how this pattern often develops in childhood, when the need to be perfect becomes a shield against rejection.
It's like having a tiny, overbearing coach in your head demanding perfection at every turn. Lee shares personal anecdotes about his own struggles with this pattern, especially when life throws a curveball. Imagine moving from Cardiff to Riga and feeling completely unmoored! Through the STRIVE Method, Lee discusses how recognising and understanding this pattern can help you manage it better.
It's not about suppressing it but rather about working with it, embracing its strengths like discipline and responsibility, while gently steering it away from panic-driven decisions. You'll also get insights into how the Rigid Pattern can lead to reliance on alcohol as a coping mechanism for uncertainty. Lee suggests grounding practices and awareness as tools to shift from being controlled by this pattern to living a more self-led life.
He encourages listeners to embrace vulnerability and face the unknown without reaching for a drink. If you've ever felt trapped by your own need for control or used alcohol to escape life's pressures, this episode is a must-listen. It's an eye-opener that reminds you: you're not weak; you're just human. So why not take a moment to reflect on your own patterns and consider how you might gently redirect them?