Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
BPD Fragmented Self Blocks Connection and Communication
Saturday 2nd August 2025
Explore how the fragmented self in BPD blocks communication and connection, and learn strategies for healing from these toxic relationships.
41 minutes
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empathetic
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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Episode Overview
- BPD creates a fragmented self, blocking connection.
- Communication with untreated BPD individuals is challenging.
- Codependency often leads to toxic relationship cycles.
- Emotional healing involves facing personal pain.
- Understanding BPD dynamics is crucial for recovery.
"No matter how emotionally intelligent, spiritually grounded, or compassionate you are, you cannot build a borderline, a self."
In this episode of the Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast, host A.J. Mahari delves into the complexities of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) and its impact on relationships. The episode focuses on the concept of the fragmented self in individuals with BPD, particularly those who are untreated. A.J. explains how this fragmentation leads to significant communication barriers, making it difficult for individuals with BPD to truly hear and see their partners.
This lack of mutuality and reciprocity in relationships results in toxic interactions that can be emotionally draining for those involved. A.J. Mahari, a counselor and trauma recovery coach, emphasizes the importance of understanding these dynamics for anyone dealing with a BPD relationship. She highlights the frustration of having lengthy conversations with a BPD partner, only to find that they struggle to internalize the message and feel victimized instead.
The episode sheds light on why individuals with codependency may find themselves repeatedly drawn to these relationships despite the pain they experience. Through expert insights, A.J. discusses the psychological structure of BPD that blocks effective communication. She notes that untreated individuals often have an underdeveloped or fragmented ego, leading to emotional arrest and a lack of a cohesive self. This can manifest in sudden emotional shifts or childlike regression during conversations.
The podcast encourages listeners to face their own emotional pain and work towards healing. A.J. offers support and guidance for those looking to break free from these toxic cycles and emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth rather than attempting to fix the relationship. Overall, this episode provides valuable information for anyone affected by BPD, offering hope and clarity for those seeking to understand and heal from these challenging relationships.