Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
The BPD Fantasy Why Codependents Feel Stuck
Tuesday 5th August 2025
Explore the BPD fantasy and codependency trap with A.J. Mahari's insights on breaking free from self-abandonment and finding healing.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Codependents often feel trapped due to a psychological fantasy.
- Idealisation from someone with BPD can quickly turn into devaluation.
- Childhood experiences influence codependent behaviours.
- Letting go involves facing personal pain and breaking the fantasy bond.
- Self-healing is crucial for recovery and reclaiming one's identity.
"You're not just afraid to lose them; you're afraid to lose the dream."
Imagine being caught in a whirlwind romance that feels like a fairy tale, only to realise you're living in a fantasy that leaves you feeling stuck and lost. This episode of 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups' tackles the complex web of codependency in relationships with individuals with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Hosted by A.J. Mahari, a seasoned trauma recovery coach, this discussion dives into why codependents find themselves trapped in a cycle of self-abandonment and heartbreak.
Mahari sheds light on the psychological fantasy that keeps codependents tethered to relationships fraught with chaos and emotional turmoil. It's not about weakness or obsession, but rather an unconscious bond formed long before the relationship began. This episode explores how the idealisation from someone with BPD can feel magical at first, making you believe in a soulmate connection.
Yet, as the relationship progresses, the idealisation often flips into devaluation and blame, leaving you grasping for the person you thought they were. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Mahari explains how codependents are driven by a deep-seated need to be enough—stemming from childhood experiences where love was earned through sacrifice and loyalty. The episode reveals how this fantasy of redemption keeps individuals stuck, chasing a dream that never truly existed. A.J.
Mahari offers compassionate advice on breaking free from this cycle. She encourages listeners to focus on self-healing and to understand that true recovery involves facing one's own pain and letting go of the fantasy. If you're feeling trapped in a BPD relationship, this episode provides valuable guidance on reclaiming your sense of self and finding hope in healing. Why continue living in a fantasy when reality holds the key to your freedom?
Tune in for an enlightening journey towards self-discovery and recovery.