Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
The BPD Love Paradox
The BPD Love Paradox
The BPD Love Paradox
Wednesday 6th August 2025
Explore the paradox of BPD love: craving intimacy but pushing it away. A.J. Mahari offers empathy and healing insights for those affected.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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Episode Overview
- Understanding the paradox of craving love but pushing it away.
- Exploring defensive mechanisms like splitting in BPD.
- Insight into self-fulfilling prophecies affecting relationships.
- The role of early attachment trauma in BPD behaviour.
- Paths to healing for those with BPD and their loved ones.
"I want you close, but I'm terrified you'll hurt me if I let you close"
Ever wondered why someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) seems to push away the love they crave? In "The BPD Love Paradox," A.J. Mahari, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, dives into this puzzling behaviour. She sheds light on the heartbreaking cycle of longing for intimacy while simultaneously sabotaging it. Mahari explains how individuals with BPD often grapple with self-fulfilling prophecies and defensive splitting, which leads to testing love until it breaks.
It's a tender exploration of why intimacy feels both irresistible and terrifying to those with BPD. Mahari doesn't just stop at explanations. She offers a compassionate path toward healing for both those with BPD and their loved ones. With over 30 years of experience, she discusses how a fragmented sense of self and early attachment trauma play significant roles in this paradoxical behaviour.
If you're someone who's been caught in this emotional whirlwind or know someone who is, Mahari's insights could be your guide to understanding the complexity of BPD relationships. Through a mix of professional expertise and empathy, Mahari paints a picture of hope and healing. She encourages you to reflect on your own experiences and emotions, whether you're the one struggling with BPD or the partner trying to make sense of it all.
This episode is not just about highlighting the challenges but also about finding ways to navigate them. So, if you're ready to gain clarity and perhaps even find a bit of solace, this episode might just be what you need.