Letting Go: Steve Hauptman on Overcoming Control Addiction
The real goal- the goal that we're not in touch with a lot of the time when we're trying to control people, places, things especially- is to control how we feel.
Ever feel like you need to micromanage every little thing in your life? In this episode of 'MonkeyTraps', Steve Hauptman dives deep into the concept of control addiction. Hauptman, a seasoned Licensed Clinical Social Worker and addiction expert, takes listeners on a journey through the root causes of this often-overlooked compulsion.
Drawing from his book 'MonkeyTraps', he shares both professional insights and personal anecdotes to help paint a clearer picture of why we feel the need to control everything around us. Through engaging storytelling, Hauptman discusses the symptoms and underlying causes of control addiction, making it relatable and easy to understand. He highlights the role of mindfulness in overcoming this addiction and emphasizes the importance of identifying and defining personal needs.
One of the key takeaways is that the real goal behind our need to control is to manage how we feel. By letting go of this compulsion, we can experience greater peace, joy, and connection in our lives. The episode also touches on the limits of positive thinking and affirmations, providing a balanced view of what truly helps in finding fulfillment.
Hauptman offers practical advice on how to 'swim with the tide' rather than against it, making it easier for listeners to apply these concepts in their daily lives. Whether you're struggling with control addiction yourself or simply curious about the topic, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips that can lead to a more relaxed and fulfilling life.