Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
Does Going No Contact Make Your BPD Ex Think About You?
Thursday 19th June 2025
Explore the challenges and healing journey after a BPD breakup with expert insights from A.J. Mahari on no contact and trauma recovery.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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Episode Overview
- No contact is crucial for healing post-BPD breakup.
- Avoid using no contact to manipulate or win back an ex.
- Focus on self-healing and breaking trauma bonds.
- No contact is not a strategy; it's a commitment.
- Understanding the intermittent reinforcement cycle.
No contact is not a strategy to make them feel something so they'll come back to you. It's an action and a commitment for your healing.
In this episode of the 'Surviving BPD Relationship Breakup Podcast,' host A.J. Mahari delves into the often misunderstood concept of 'no contact' after a breakup with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Mahari, a counselor and trauma recovery coach, provides a compassionate yet firm stance on why going no contact is not only necessary but also essential for one's healing and recovery journey.
Mahari emphasizes that no contact should not be viewed as a tactic to manipulate or provoke thoughts of longing in a BPD ex. Instead, it is a serious action that must be taken to focus on self-healing and to break the trauma bonds that often form in such relationships. She explains that many people grappling with the end of a BPD relationship feel guilt and sorrow, not just for themselves, but also for their ex-partners.
This emotional turmoil can make the decision to go no contact incredibly challenging. The podcast explores the dynamics of intermittent reinforcement, a psychological phenomenon often experienced in relationships with BPD individuals. Mahari warns listeners that even if an ex-partner reaches out, it's typically not out of genuine concern or change but rather a continuation of the same cycle that caused pain initially.
Listeners are encouraged to prioritize their recovery by understanding why they gave so much in the relationship and why they felt lost when it ended. Mahari stresses that the path to healing involves understanding these patterns and making a committed decision to go no contact for one's own well-being rather than for the hope of reconciliation. The episode concludes with a reminder that the journey of recovery is deeply personal and requires commitment and self-compassion.
Mahari offers support through her coaching services, inviting listeners to explore further resources on her website.