Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
Wanting to Make Amends to a BPD Ex is Codependent
Saturday 21st June 2025
Explore why making amends to a BPD ex might be codependent. Learn about self-care in post-BPD relationship recovery with A.J. Mahari.
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Episode Overview
- Making amends to a BPD ex may stem from codependency.
- Prioritise self-care over reconnecting with a BPD ex.
- No contact can be healthier than attempting reconciliation.
- Focus on personal growth rather than others' emotional well-being.
- Guilt and responsibility can be misleading in post-BPD relationships.
"It's crucial to prioritise self-care over trying to mend past wounds with a BPD ex."
In this episode of Surviving BPD Relationship Breakups, A.J. Mahari takes a deep dive into the complexities of wanting to make amends to a former partner or friend with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). If you've ever found yourself in a whirlwind of guilt and responsibility after ending a relationship with someone who has BPD, you're not alone.
Mahari, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, argues that such feelings can often stem from codependency, and she cautions against making amends in these situations. With her unique blend of empathy and expertise, Mahari addresses the challenges faced by those recovering from alcoholism or codependency, and she highlights how these issues intersect with relationships involving BPD.
The episode sheds light on why making amends to a BPD ex might not be in your best interest and how maintaining no contact could actually serve as a healthier path forward. Mahari also explores the intricacies of guilt and responsibility, urging listeners to focus on their own healing rather than prioritising the emotional well-being of their BPD ex.
Throughout the discussion, Mahari shares anecdotes from her extensive experience, offering a compassionate perspective on why it's crucial to prioritise self-care and personal growth. If you're wrestling with the urge to apologise or reconnect with a BPD ex, this episode provides valuable insights into why such actions may not be beneficial. It's a thoughtful exploration of the delicate balance between self-compassion and the desire to mend past wounds.
So, if you're navigating the tricky waters of post-BPD relationship recovery, this episode offers guidance on how to reclaim your peace without compromising your progress. Are you ready to put yourself first and embrace a healthier future?