Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
Misunderstanding BPD Intensity as Love
Saturday 6th December 2025
Explore why intense feelings in BPD relationships are mistaken for love. A.J. Mahari guides you through the emotional maze with empathy and insight.
49 minutes
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
Navigating Alcohol Dependency
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Episode Overview
- Intensity in BPD relationships is often mistaken for love.
- Emotional dysregulation can mimic passion and intimacy.
- Fantasy bonds create confusion and keep partners stuck.
- Understanding true love involves mutuality and communication.
- Breaking free requires reclaiming emotional clarity.
"Healthy love doesn't come rushing in like a tidal wave; it's built through acts of mutuality and real communication."
Curious about how others navigate their sobriety journey? This episode tackles the emotional whirlwind often mistaken for love in relationships with someone who has untreated Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). A.J. Mahari, a seasoned counsellor and trauma recovery coach, dives into the intense feelings that can be overwhelming, consuming, and deeply validating, yet are far from genuine love. You'll hear about the fantasy bond and rapid trauma-attachment cycle that keeps many partners stuck long after the relationship has ended.
Mahari explains how emotional dysregulation can masquerade as passion, leaving partners in confusion and heartbreak. She discusses the idealisation phase that feels powerful to codependents and trauma survivors, and why these feelings of intensity are not true love but rather emotional survival tactics of those with BPD. With light humour and empathy, Mahari offers insights into breaking free from these relationships and reclaiming your emotional clarity.
The episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to understand the dynamics of BPD relationships and find their way back to healthy love. As you ponder the complexities of love versus intensity, remember that true love unfolds slowly and is built through mutual acts of care and communication. Are you ready to explore what real love looks like?