Counsellor A.J. Mahari
A.J. Mahari
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
Reactive Abuse in BPD Partners and Exes
Sunday 21st December 2025
Explore the complexities of reactive abuse in BPD relationships with insights from trauma recovery coach A.J. Mahari.
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Counsellor A.J. Mahari
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Healing Relationships
Navigating Intimate Relationships
Recovery from Trauma
Navigating Challenges in Recovery
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Episode Overview
- Reactive abuse stems from survival-driven, trauma-activated responses.
- Understanding trauma-based reactions helps release shame.
- Chronic emotional stress can trigger unexpected reactions.
- Boundaries are crucial for personal growth and safety.
- Support systems are essential for healing and recovery.
"Reactive abuse is a survival-driven, trauma-activated reaction."
How do individuals turn their lives around after tumultuous relationships? In this gripping episode, A.J. Mahari, a seasoned trauma recovery coach, dives into the murky waters of reactive abuse in relationships involving Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). With over 30 years of experience, Mahari unpacks the complexities of reactive behaviours that often arise in these emotionally charged dynamics. She sheds light on how seemingly passive individuals can find themselves reacting aggressively due to chronic emotional dysregulation, boundary violations, and relentless stress.
Listeners are guided through the intricate dance of codependency and BPD, learning how trauma-based reactions differ from intentional abuse. Mahari's compassionate approach provides clarity, helping survivors release the shame tied to their experiences. Real-world examples and recovery-focused discussions make the episode both relatable and educational. With a focus on healing and understanding, Mahari explains seven nuanced reasons behind reactive abuse, rooted in trauma theory and relational patterns.
The episode encourages listeners to reflect on their own boundaries and the impact of their actions, emphasising personal growth and the importance of seeking support. Whether you're navigating your own journey or supporting someone else, this episode offers valuable insights into the emotional rollercoaster of BPD relationships. So, what drives someone to react in ways they never imagined? Tune in to find out.