The Roots of People-Pleasing: Childhood and Cultural Influences Unpacked
Episode Overview
Recognize the roots of people-pleasing tendencies in childhood and culture Explore the importance of setting boundaries and fostering vulnerability Build trust through genuine communication and self-reflection Understand the impact of self-esteem and mental health on people-pleasing behaviours Embrace the discomfort of change and prioritising self-care
Take a step back and even just start by acknowledging that you're doing it. Because first is you can't change anything without understanding it. Things work for different people. So people have to notice what they are thinking, what's going on in their head. What am I feeling right now while this is happening? What is my body feeling? So that once they acknowledge and notice it within themselves, then they can start making changes towards progress.
Why do some of us feel the need to constantly put others before ourselves? In this episode of the 'Heal Your Roots Podcast', host Kira Yakubov Ploshansky sits down with Gabrielle Larin, a licensed marriage and family therapist, to unravel the origins of people-pleasing behaviors. Gabrielle shares her deep expertise on how childhood upbringing and cultural pressures can mold us into people-pleasers, often at the expense of our own well-being.
The conversation dives into early family dynamics and societal expectations, especially those placed on women, and how these factors contribute to self-esteem issues and the compulsive need to prioritize others' needs. Through a compassionate and understanding lens, Kira and Gabrielle discuss the journey of personal growth, emphasizing the importance of celebrating small successes, setting healthy boundaries, and practicing self-care. They challenge listeners to distinguish between being 'nice' and being genuinely kind, advocating for authenticity and vulnerability in relationships.
The episode is packed with practical advice on overcoming the discomfort associated with setting boundaries and communicating needs. Whether you're struggling with people-pleasing tendencies or looking to support someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights into achieving a balanced approach to selflessness and self-preservation.