Rebuilding the Broken Self: Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
In relationships, especially intimate ones, you have to have a differentiated sense of self, you have to be able to stand on your own. But when there's others that come into the relationship, there's a certain threatening of the false self, and that's why they go on the attack in intimate relationships, because they see the fact that the other individual has a say or has an opinion, or has thoughts or has desires, as a threat to the false self.
Ever wondered how deep the scars of childhood abuse can run? In this episode of the 'Narcissism Recovery Podcast', Yitz Epstein takes a heartfelt look at the shattered self left in the wake of narcissistic abuse. Imagine a child unable to form a true sense of self, forced instead to create a false persona to hide their battered and shamed inner core.
This episode digs into how such extreme abuse disrupts the development of a healthy ego, leaving children—and later, adults—struggling to connect with others meaningfully. Yitz explains how a lack of empathy and consistency from abusive or narcissistic parents can fracture a child's sense of self. These children absorb their surroundings without judgment, leading to a broken ego that fails to set boundaries or regulate self-worth.
This fractured sense of self follows them into adulthood, complicating intimate relationships and making it difficult to stand on their own. Recovery, though challenging, is possible. Yitz emphasizes the importance of rebuilding the broken self with the help of someone who can mirror and support this process. While narcissists can theoretically change, their lack of empathy for themselves often makes this an uphill battle. But for those willing to embark on this rigorous journey, healing is within reach.
Tune in to understand how narcissistic abuse shapes the self and discover ways to begin the healing process. If you're grappling with the aftermath of such abuse or know someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and hope.