The Empty Chair Podcast
Sakera E.Lane,.LPC,CAADC
Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Thursday 22nd May 2025
Explore avoidant attachment with Sakera E. Lane. Learn why some pull away in relationships and discover steps towards healing.
9 minutes
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Get the buttons here!Why Do We Pull Away? Understanding Avoidant Attachment
Episode Overview
- Avoidant attachment often stems from emotionally unavailable caregivers.
- Recognising emotional suppression is key to healing.
- Practising small vulnerabilities can help build connection.
- Reframing independence to include interdependence supports healthy relationships.
- Therapy provides a safe space to explore early experiences and build trust.
"Avoiding attachment is not about not caring. It's about fear."
Have you ever wondered why some folks seem to shy away when relationships get too close for comfort? This episode of The Empty Chair takes a deep dive into the intriguing world of avoidant attachment. Host Sakera E. Lane, a licensed professional counsellor, sheds light on this complex attachment style, explaining how it forms and the behaviours it can lead to.
Avoidant attachment often develops as a survival response, rather than a lack of care, when caregivers are emotionally unavailable or dismissive. People with this attachment style might appear emotionally distant, but it's a learned protective strategy. Sakera discusses how those with avoidant attachment often value independence to an extreme, viewing vulnerability as risky and intimacy as overwhelming. You'll hear common phrases like "I just need space" or "I don't do feelings" - familiar, right?
These behaviours can lead to push-pull dynamics in relationships, especially with partners who have anxious attachment styles. But fear not - healing is possible. Through recognising emotional suppression and practising small vulnerabilities, individuals can begin to build safer and more connected relationships. Sakera encourages reframing independence to include interdependence, where mutual support allows relationships to thrive.
Therapy can be a valuable tool in this journey, providing a safe space to explore early experiences with caregivers and learning about love and safety. If you've ever felt like you're pulling away when someone gets too close, this episode offers a compassionate understanding of avoidant attachment and steps towards healing. Why not give it a listen and see if it resonates with you?