043 Why it's hard to change.

043 Why it's hard to change.

Why is it so hard to change? Roane Hunter and Ben Derrick tackle this question head-on in this episode of Sex, God, & Chaos. They dive into the intricacies of why making lasting changes in our lives can feel like an uphill battle. From deeply ingrained behaviours and thought patterns to the brain's limbic system and developmental stages, they cover it all.

You'll hear about the significant role that generational and conditioned patterns play in our lives, often leading to avoidance behaviour. One of the standout points is the importance of recognising and overcoming shame and false beliefs, which are often unconscious but have a massive impact on personal transformation. Roane and Ben don't just talk about the problems; they also offer solutions. They highlight the crucial role of authentic community and personal disclosure in counselling.

They stress that real change requires more than just willpower – it involves defrosting the hippocampus to process and heal from trauma. Their discussion is peppered with personal anecdotes, making complex topics relatable and easier to understand. The episode also delves into how our brains develop and store memories, affecting our ability to change. You'll learn about the amygdala, hippocampus, and nucleus accumbens – all key players in how we react to stress and pleasure.

By breaking down these scientific concepts, Roane and Ben make it clear why change is tough but achievable. If you're struggling with making lasting changes in your life or supporting someone who is, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Don't miss out on understanding the deeper reasons behind our behaviours and how to effectively address them.