062 | Organizing the Chaos062 | Organizing the Chaos
Sex, God, & Chaos
In this episode of Sex, God, & Chaos, Ben and Roane open up about the realities of chaos, betrayal, addiction, and the long road toward healing. After reflecting on near-death experiences, friendship, and gratitude, they unpack three phases of recovery—from the disorienting early days of emotional upheaval to the deeper work of dependence, community, and spiritual transformation. Roane introduces Dallas Willard’s VIM framework (Vision, Intention, Means) to illustrate how people begin the journey toward wholeness, while Ben challenges listeners to recognize why so many get stuck in the early phase and never move forward. Together they describe what a truly healthy, integrated person looks like—someone who lives with peace, awareness, humility, and relational depth. Whether you’re facing betrayal trauma, walking through addiction recovery, or simply seeking emotional and spiritual maturity, this conversation offers clarity, hope, and a practical path toward bringing order to the chaos.
45:54•8 Dec 2025
Organising Chaos: A Journey from Addiction to Healing
Episode Overview
- Recovery involves three key phases: emotional upheaval, community building, and spiritual transformation.
- Dallas Willard’s VIM framework (Vision, Intention, Means) helps guide individuals toward wholeness.
- Gratitude and friendship are essential components of the healing journey.
- Many people get stuck in the early phases of recovery without proper guidance.
- True healing requires embracing community support and spiritual growth.
“Life together in true, authentic community is just damn messy.”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This episode of 'Sex, God, & Chaos' tackles the chaos of addiction and betrayal with hosts Ben Derrick and Roane Hunter. With a blend of humour and raw honesty, they explore the tumultuous phases of recovery, from the initial disarray to spiritual transformation. Roane introduces Dallas Willard’s VIM framework (Vision, Intention, Means) as a guiding light for those seeking to rebuild their lives.
Ben shares personal reflections on gratitude and friendship, challenging listeners to move beyond the early, often sticky stages of recovery. The duo doesn't sugarcoat the struggle; instead, they offer a roadmap to order in chaos. Through candid discussions about emotional upheaval and community support, they paint a picture of what it means to truly heal. So, are you ready to start organising your chaos and embrace a journey towards wholeness?
Listen in for a conversation that might just spark the change you've been looking for.
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