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You're Sober! Now What?
Mindset coach Ichko Batmunkh talks with Tamar Medford about moving from a life that feels wrong into one that matches your true desires. The conversation focuses on fear, resentment, purpose and learning to value your own story in recovery and beyond.
50:08•4 Mar 2021
Don’t Hold Back: Finding Your Voice and Purpose with Ichko Batmunkh
Episode Overview
- Focusing constantly on what you don’t want tends to keep you stuck in exactly that situation.
- Cleaning up the past through acknowledging resentment, releasing emotion and practising forgiveness helps you live more fully in the present.
- Fear doesn’t disappear; progress comes from acting despite feeling scared and normalising that discomfort.
- Your story and experience are valuable, even if you think they’re ordinary or embarrassing, and can be used to support others.
- Simple habits like journalling, meditation and visualising your future can keep you connected to your goals and sense of purpose.
“Whatever you look for, you always find it. So we get to look for the things we want in our life.”
What drives someone to seek a life that actually feels like their own? This conversation with mindset and life coach Ichko Batmunkh speaks straight to anyone in recovery who feels sober, but stuck.
Host Tamar Medford chats with Ichko, who shares how she walked away from a safe accounting career and CPA track after waking up one day thinking, “I just really couldn’t see myself doing it the rest of my life.” Feeling depressed, indecisive and lost, she began a deep dive into self‑knowledge, asking what she truly wanted – and just as importantly, what she didn’t.
Together they talk about how easy it is to stay trapped in “I don’t want this” thinking, and why that keeps you stuck. As Ichko puts it, “Whatever you look for, you always find it,” so if your focus is on what you hate, you’re likely to keep getting more of it. You’ll hear how she shifted her attention towards what she did want, stepped into entrepreneurship as an introverted immigrant woman, and started helping others do the same.
The episode is especially useful for people in recovery who feel called to something more but are scared to move. Tamar brings in her own experience of addiction and sobriety, stressing that your past can be a resource rather than a life sentence. They unpack practical ideas like cleaning up resentment, forgiving yourself and others, normalising fear instead of waiting for it to disappear, and using daily tools like journalling, meditation and goal‑setting to create momentum.
If you’ve ever thought, “Who am I to help anyone?” or “My story isn’t special enough,” this chat challenges that belief gently but firmly. So what would change for you if you stopped holding back and actually backed yourself, just a little bit more?
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