114: Tamar & Lindsay Go Neuro- Beliefs114: Tamar & Lindsay Go Neuro- Beliefs
You're Sober! Now What?
Tamar Medford and Lindsay talk about how beliefs, especially limiting ones, affect recovery, business and self-worth. They share their own experiences and outline practical, science-based ways to question and change those beliefs.
49:57•8 Jul 2021
Changing the Stories We Tell Ourselves: Beliefs, Recovery and Neuro Change
Episode Overview
- Write down limiting beliefs and ask whether they are genuinely true or just stories you repeat.
- Seek cognitive dissonance by looking for evidence that contradicts your current beliefs.
- Create emotional discomfort in a safe way by sharing experiences with others and comparing perspectives.
- Define the belief you’d prefer to hold and list habits that someone with that belief would practise.
- Start with small, realistic actions—like short walks or simple daily goals—to gradually weaken limiting beliefs.
“When you can identify what a limiting belief is, you take away its power over you.”
What are the common struggles and victories in addiction recovery? This conversation between Tamar Medford and Lindsay centres on a huge piece of that puzzle: beliefs, and how they can either hold you back or help you move forward. Drawing from The Neuro Change Method™ programme, they break beliefs down into dispositional (the unconscious "birds fly" type) and core beliefs, the ones you actively think about and that often shape your self-worth.
Both Tamar and Lindsay share how this work shook them up: sleepless nights, tears, and the uncomfortable realisation that “underneath those limiting beliefs are more.” You’ll hear how early recovery was full of stories like “Who am I to do anything significant?” and “I’m not good at school,” and how those stories were gradually challenged through science-based training, purpose-driven action, and small, practical steps.
Lindsay talks about setting five-minute walks and a daily shower as her only goals during a deep depressive period, showing how tiny actions can slowly erode powerful limiting beliefs. The episode walks through two main strategies: seeking cognitive dissonance (actively looking for facts that contradict your belief) and seeking emotional discomfort (sharing experiences with others and letting their stories clash with your own assumptions).
Tamar suggests writing down current limiting beliefs, asking “Is this actually true?”, then defining the belief you’d rather hold and building habits that support it. Entrepreneurs in recovery get special attention, as both hosts link money, business growth, and self-esteem to hidden beliefs that can quietly “handcuff” progress. The tone stays honest and humorous—there’s even a squeaky chair confession—while still respecting how serious this work can feel.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you can genuinely change the stories you tell yourself, this chat might be a nudge to grab a pen and start rewriting them. What belief would you like to hold about yourself next year?
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