116: Tamar & Lindsay Go Neuro: Mindset116: Tamar & Lindsay Go Neuro: Mindset
You're Sober! Now What?
Tamar Medford and Lindsay talk about growth versus fixed mindsets, sharing personal experiences with triggers, feedback and limiting beliefs. They offer simple language shifts and practical strategies to support long-term recovery and more resilient leadership.
29:16•15 Jul 2021
Growth Mindset, Fixed Beliefs and the Power of “Not Yet” in Recovery
Episode Overview
- A growth mindset treats mistakes as chances to learn, while a fixed mindset treats them as proof of failure.
- Identifying personal triggers, especially around feedback and integrity, helps prevent spirals into self-doubt.
- Adding “not yet” or “yet” to limiting statements opens room for progress instead of finality.
- Praising effort and process rather than talent supports a growth mindset in teams and relationships.
- Seeing failure as feedback builds resilience, making long-term recovery and business growth more sustainable.
“The urge to continue has to be stronger than the urge to quit.”
How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety? This conversation between Tamar Medford and Lindsay taps into that question by looking closely at mindset, especially for people in recovery who are also building businesses or leading others. You’ll hear them contrast a growth mindset with a fixed one, using their own stories from Neuro Change Method™ practitioner training.
Tamar admits she once thought, “I’ve got a growth mindset, obviously,” only to realise she carried stubborn fixed beliefs, especially when her integrity felt questioned. Lindsay shares how feedback at work used to feel like “Lindsay, you’re an idiot,” until she learnt it was about improving the work, not attacking her worth.
A standout moment comes from a quote Tamar is reading in Napoleon Hill’s *Outwitting the Devil*: “The urge to continue has to be stronger than the urge to quit.” Both hosts link this to recovery, relapse, entrepreneurship and those moments when giving up feels easier than pushing forward. They offer a simple yet powerful tool: add “not yet” or “yet” to limiting statements.
“I can’t stay sober” becomes “I can’t stay sober yet.” “I’m not able to stop my addiction” turns into “I’m not able to stop my addiction not yet.” This tiny phrase opens the door to possibility instead of shutting it. For leaders and business owners, they talk about praising effort and process rather than talent, setting expectations that stretch but don’t crush, and using mistakes as a chance to grow resilience.
There’s plenty here for anyone in long-term recovery who’s tired of feeling stuck and wants practical mindset shifts without fluffy jargon. By the end, you might be asking yourself: which of your beliefs are fixed, and where could a simple “not yet” change your recovery story?
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