142 Do You Have Both Feet In?

142 Do You Have Both Feet In?

What drives someone to seek a life where they’ve got both feet firmly planted instead of always keeping one foot out the door? This episode follows Tamar Medford as she talks candidly about what committing fully looks like in recovery, business, relationships and health. Tamar kicks things off with gratitude, sharing how learning to cry and say “I’m not okay” transformed her early sobriety.

She admits that for years she lived with a “suck it up” mentality, seeing emotions as weakness. Now, she’s thankful for a support network that catches her when she starts to shut down and reminds her to let the tears come. From there, she gets honest about the pattern she’s spotted in her life: going all in on some things, while quietly planning an exit strategy for others.

When she left her corporate job to focus on entrepreneurship, she knew she had to commit fully, saying yes to coaching, training and personal growth. “I knew that I couldn’t half-ass it,” she explains. But relationships and fitness told a different story. Tamar reflects on how, once the honeymoon phase ended, she often prepared for things to fall apart instead of putting both feet in.

She talks about rereading *The Five Love Languages* and working to show up better for her partner, making sure her vision for the future includes them, not just her own goals. She also shares how she turned exercise from a short burst of enthusiasm into a lifestyle, swapping hiking for indoor biking as the seasons changed so she couldn’t hide behind “it’s raining” excuses.

Throughout, Tamar invites you to ask yourself a simple but challenging question: where in your life are you still half-committed, and what would change if you truly had both feet in?