144 It's Ok To Be Human

144 It's Ok To Be Human

What drives someone to seek a life without alcohol? For Tamar Medford, a huge part of it is learning that "it's okay to be human" – even when you’re the one others look up to in recovery. This candid episode centres on the messy, imperfect side of long-term sobriety. Tamar talks about showing up on mastermind calls and client sessions while moving through a really tough personal patch, admitting there were days she felt like she was falling apart.

Instead of hiding, she chose to let a client see her sadness, and that moment changed how the client saw her: not as someone who’s always upbeat and sorted, but as a real person who hurts and heals like everyone else. You’ll hear how gratitude plays into Tamar’s daily life, from appreciating delayed furniture deliveries to using “gratitude zone” style practices to stay grounded.

She reflects on early recovery, when she placed others on pedestals, only to realise later that they struggled too. That shift – from idolising people to recognising everyone’s humanity – becomes a key theme, especially for those in recovery who feel they must be strong all the time. Tamar also talks about emotional intelligence: learning to show emotion without shame, letting close communities lift her up, and using her own experiences to connect more deeply with clients.

The tone is honest and relaxed, with a mix of humour, real-life stories, and practical encouragement for anyone who’s tired of pretending they’re okay. If you’ve ever felt weak for crying, broken for having a bad day, or fake because your online self looks happier than your actual life, this conversation might be exactly what you need. Ready to give yourself permission to be human in your recovery too?