56. the grass is greener where you water it56. the grass is greener where you water it
Angels Anonymous
Vanessa Persephone reflects on comparison, worry and relationships while sharing practical spiritual and emotional tools to help people water the "grass" in their own lives. She focuses on gratitude, honest communication and gentle self-discipline as ways to create more peace in sobriety and beyond.
58:59•31 Mar 2026
The Grass Is Greener Where You Water It: Gratitude, Love and Self-Growth
Episode Overview
- What you focus on grows, so shifting attention from lack to what is going well is crucial for enjoying life.
- Unspoken expectations in relationships often turn into resentment; clearly asking for what you need builds real intimacy.
- Worrying about future pain or loss steals joy from the present without actually preparing you for hard times.
- Simple tools like meditation, movement, emotional wheels and weekly rituals help keep thoughts and emotions in check.
- Self-talk around body image and success can be reframed with intentional kindness, even when you don’t feel at your best.
“"If you feed the worry, if you feed and focus on what you don't have, those weeds are going to grow and your grass is going to die."”
Experience the emotional and inspiring tales of recovery and growth as Angels Anonymous host Vanessa Persephone talks honestly about what keeps people stuck in comparison, anxiety and resentment – and what it really means to "water" your own life. At 25, in recovery from multiple addictions and now a yoga instructor and integrative health coach, she shares how everyday mindset habits can either nourish or quietly poison your mental health.
Across this chatty, rambling-in-the-best-way episode, Vanessa moves from cockroach-infested rentals to yoga studios and job interviews, all to show how your inner dialogue shapes your reality. She reminds listeners that, "The grass is your mind and what you have around you," and that obsessing over what you used to have – more money, more followers, easier circumstances – can blind you to the gifts right in front of you.
You’ll hear her unpack masculine and feminine dynamics in relationships, especially her own patterns of bottling up needs, boiling over, then blaming her partner for not reading her mind. Instead, she talks about using "I feel" statements, asking directly for support, and recognising when resentment is really about unspoken expectations.
Vanessa also weaves in yoga philosophy and tarot, using the Two of Pentacles and the sutra "the pain that has not yet come is to be avoided" to talk about worry, future-tripping, and chronic fear of loss. She offers practical tools like emotional wheels on water bottles, breathwork, qigong, journalling prompts and tiny weekly rituals to keep spiritual and emotional "hygiene" in check.
If you’re in recovery or just tired of feeling like everyone else’s life is better than yours, this episode gently nudges you to look at what you’re feeding: weeds or wildflowers. What part of your own "lawn" are you ready to water next?
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