67: Domestic Abuse Breakthrough Show with Kate Beesley - Episode 6767: Domestic Abuse Breakthrough Show with Kate Beesley - Episode 67
UK Health Radio Podcast
Kate Beesley and Harry Closer-pitcher share frank stories and views on domestic abuse, coercive control and women’s safety. They also discuss how men and parents can respond differently, from learning about hormones to raising boys with emotional awareness and firm boundaries.
47:52•17 Apr 2026
Violence, Safety and Change: Men, Power and Domestic Abuse with Kate Beesley & Harry Closer-pitcher
Episode Overview
- Emotional and physical safety should be the basic standard in relationships, especially for women who face far greater risks.
- Coercive control often hides in "normal" behaviours like name-calling, repeated use of "you’re crazy", and blocking a partner from working.
- Men are urged to learn about women’s hormones, nervous systems and lived history so they take less personally and create more safety.
- Parents are encouraged to talk to children about emotions, make violence clearly off-limits, and channel aggression into sports and structured outlets.
- Loving but firm boundaries in childhood help boys grow into grounded men rather than "large boys" driven only by what they want.
“"Women don't need a lot. All we need is to feel emotionally safe. Emotionally and physically safe is what we need to feel."”
How do people find hope in the darkest times? This episode of the Domestic Abuse Breakthrough Show with host Kate Beesley and guest Harry Closer-pitcher digs into that question through raw stories and straight-talking conversation about abuse, safety and change. Kate, a survivor and trauma specialist, shares chilling examples of coercive control and financial abuse, including being forbidden to work and even being criticised over buying a £2 ice cream.
Her story highlights how staying at home can feel safe in the moment, yet becomes incredibly risky if a relationship turns abusive: you lose income, options, and often your sense of self. Harry brings a male perspective on why men must hold other men accountable and learn to create emotional and physical safety.
He talks about watching the manosphere and being heartbroken by angry rhetoric aimed at young boys, and points out that abuse statistics in the UK skew heavily towards men as perpetrators of physical violence.
As he puts it, the potential downside is wildly unequal: a man may end up with a bruised ego, while "worst case for a woman is she's dead or raped." Together they unpack how hormones, nervous systems and cultural conditioning fuel conflict, why calling women “crazy” is a coercive control tactic, and how society has normalised emotionally abusive behaviour.
They also look at raising boys differently: talking openly about emotions, making violence a non-option, channelling aggression into sports like jiu-jitsu, and setting firm but loving boundaries. This honest conversation is aimed at survivors, men who want to do better, and parents who care about the next generation. It asks tough questions but offers practical starting points. Who in your life needs to hear that emotional and physical safety should be the bare minimum, not a bonus?
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