Episode 1142: The Symptoms We Blame Our Addictions On

Episode 1142: The Symptoms We Blame Our Addictions On

What are the common struggles and victories in addiction recovery? This episode of Take 12 Recovery Radio zooms in on one of the biggest ones: blaming everything and everyone except ourselves. Host Monty Dale Meyer (the Monty’man) and co-host Roger McDiarmid chat through the ways people blame their addictions on “symptoms” like depression, past trauma, stress and even difficult people.

With a mix of humour, straight talk and faith, they show how easy it is to hide behind excuses instead of looking honestly at our own part. As Monty puts it, “We blame because we deeply desire an explanation that has no solution.” You’ll hear them talk about classic lines like “I drink because I’m depressed” or “If everyone else would change, I’d be fine,” and how those beliefs keep people stuck.

Roger shares his journey from denial and self-justification to becoming “all about facts and truth,” stressing that alcohol and drugs never solved his problems – they just delayed the pain. Monty highlights the difference between understanding trauma and using it as a lifelong shield against responsibility.

There’s plenty of lightness too, including the Monty’man’s “weekly whine” and a tongue‑in‑cheek jazz number called “It’s All Your Fault,” lampooning the blame game we play with everyone from the paper boy to the dog. Underneath the laughter, the message stays clear: recovery starts when we stop trying to control others and let God work on us instead.

If you’re tired of feeling like a victim of circumstances and curious whether blame is quietly running your life, this episode offers a honest, faith-based push toward personal accountability. Are you ready to move from “so who’s to blame?” to “so, now what?”