Flying Monkeys in High Conflict Divorce

Flying Monkeys in High Conflict Divorce

In this episode of Mental Health News Radio, host Kristin Sunanta Walker welcomes back family law attorney Evonne Hopkins to discuss the incendiary role of 'flying monkeys' in high conflict divorces. Evonne, a North Carolina Board Certified Family Law Specialist, shares her insights into the challenges faced by both attorneys and clients dealing with high conflict personalities. The term 'flying monkeys' refers to individuals who, often unknowingly, assist a narcissist or high conflict personality in their manipulative and abusive tactics.

Evonne explains how these flying monkeys can exacerbate an already volatile situation, making it crucial for those involved to establish firm boundaries. She emphasizes that setting boundaries is a vital step in protecting oneself from further emotional harm. Evonne also highlights the importance of trauma work and self-discovery in healing from past abusive relationships. She suggests that individuals need to reconnect with their inner selves and build the self-esteem necessary to stand up against manipulation.

This process is challenging, especially when dealing with clever and convincing disordered individuals. The conversation touches on the systemic issues within legal and law enforcement systems that can unintentionally re-traumatize victims. Evonne advocates for a more compassionate approach to questioning and supporting victims of abuse. Listeners are encouraged to seek out legal and emotional support from professionals who will tell them the uncomfortable truths needed for healing. The episode concludes with a teaser for the next show featuring Dr.

Carrie Lennox, focusing on the 'Martyr Mom' syndrome. This episode provides valuable insights into navigating the complexities of high conflict divorces and emphasizes the need for personal growth and setting boundaries.