Helping… or Playing God? (Two Sober Dudes)

Helping… or Playing God? (Two Sober Dudes)

Curious about how others manage their sobriety journey? Two Sober Dudes, Dion and Tyler, get real about a tricky question: are you actually helping someone, or are you secretly trying to run their life? Aimed at people in recovery and those who support them, this chat digs into that fine line between genuine service and quiet control. From sponsorship to family dynamics, they keep asking the same key question: *why* am I stepping in?

As Tyler puts it, he has to ask if he's “trying to help somebody be better because I want what's best for them selflessly, or am I trying to get things Tyler's way?” You’ll hear them swap stories about unsolicited advice, being “voluntold” to be a Virgo, and worrying about a rabbit guarding its nest on the porch.

The humour runs alongside some pretty direct guidance, like Dion reading from the Big Book: “It is not a matter of giving that is in question… but when and how to give.” They keep circling back to simple, practical tools: ask before offering advice, meet people where they’re at, and avoid becoming someone’s higher power. Sponsorship gets a big spotlight.

Tyler explains a sponsor as “somebody who has something that you don’t and is willing to teach you how they got it,” not a therapist, police officer, or God. They talk about letting sponsees go, setting boundaries, and trusting that alcohol – not the sponsor – will finish convincing someone who isn’t ready.

There’s also honest talk about higher power, from Batman and Johnny Cash to more traditional ideas, with one basic rule: it needs to be more powerful than a human and able to restore sanity. If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re offering a hand up or trying to play director, this candid conversation might get you asking yourself a new question the next time you say, “Can I help you?”