How Do I Trust God When I Don't Trust My Loved One?

How Do I Trust God When I Don't Trust My Loved One?

How do people find strength in their journey to sobriety when the person using isn’t the one holding the microphone? This conversation focuses squarely on the families and friends standing in the fallout of addiction, asking one raw question: *"How do I trust God when I don't trust my loved one?"* Hosts Katie Comer and Chelsea McLeod speak directly to those living in what they call “survival mode” after a loved one enters or leaves treatment.

With humour, honesty and a lot of scripture, they share how their own marriages and relationships walked through addiction, relapse, separation and, for them, restoration. Katie talks about the moment she prayed, *"Even if you don’t save my marriage, I still trust you,"* and how shifting her trust from her husband Adam’s choices to God’s character lifted a crushing weight from her shoulders.

Chelsea shares packing up John’s boxes, stepping aside from trying to be his saviour, and saying, *"God, your will be done,"* even while fearing what might happen next. They draw a clear line between forgiveness and trust—reminding listeners that you can forgive someone in a moment, but trust is built slowly over time through “trustworthy fruit” like drug tests, accountability and consistent change.

Practical tools surface throughout: “take the next right step,” accept that the right step is often the hardest one, move your security from their behaviour to God’s character, and remember that, as they put it, *"Sometimes we're not actually looking for trust, we're looking for a guarantee."* If you’re exhausted from checking, worrying and carrying the outcome on your own shoulders, this warm, Christ-centred chat might help you breathe, reset your boundaries and ask yourself: what could trusting God, even if, look like for you today?

You’ll hear repeated reassurance that it’s perfectly normal to trust God before you’re anywhere near trusting your loved one again.